My husband and I have been married for 6 years. I have always had very good relations with my mother-in-law and other members, we have lived peacefully and harmoniously, without any conflict. I did not marry from a rich family, mine and my husband’s families are simple people living the same way, which made our relationship even easier. Nothing was committed, and I never allowed myself to want expensive things, even if it was a wedding, engagement or other occasion. But now I’m starting to regret it, because I can clearly see how my mother-in-law buys the most expensive and best things for my wife, buys a must-have gift from expensive stores for every occasion, because she comes from a somewhat wealthy family.
At first I said, well, whatever they do, they do, but now I’m really upset and it’s not absolute envy. You just start to realize that you are not appreciated, your modesty and the other are doing more and turning away. My mother-in-law took every detail from the wedding very dearly, she didn’t want to consult her. On one side, every year for my birthday, her gift was to bake a cake, she asked : ”What you want?”, I said: ”Would like you to bake a cake of your taste”, so that it doesn’t cost anything, but for my husband’s brother’s wife she would buy a gold chain, a watch, expensive perfume…But in any case, it’s unpleasant for me and you start to tense up.
One day I told my mother-in-law that ”I don’t deserve that you don’t treat me, you do everything for her”, she said to me: “Dear Jenny, you don’t take these things into account, she and her parents take them into account, I do too so that they don’t talk more or less.” I said , “Hey, what about justice and equality, dear, don’t you think, I want expensive gifts, absolutely, but it’s unpleasant for me that you have to wait for what I want, who doesn’t want expensive and good gifts, some are just modest, others no”: The important thing is that I said what my heart wanted, then she already knows what to do, and I will do whatever I want for myself and I will not spare myself.